I know people use the interwebs to date for a lot of reasons. Convenience of perusing profiles semi anonymously, busy schedules that don't allow for those connections to be made elsewhere, introverts too shy to pick up that conversation with strangers in public and let's face EVERYONE is online!
Me, I can't keep a straight face and my tongue in check when a cheesy or bawdy line is thrown my direction.
We've all heard them:
"Are you religious? 'Cause you're the answer to all my prayers."
"Do you have a map? I'm getting lost in your eyes."
"Did it hurt? The fall, did it hurt? When you fell down from Heaven, because you're an angel."
Then there's the more obscene lines:
"You love George Straight right? My George is straight why don't you come love on him!"
Or better yet, just get to the point.
"How about you and I go F***?"
I'd really like to laugh in their faces at some of the lines guys use. For my entertainment at the bar I pick out a few tools to people watch. I watch them drool behind women's backs and laugh when they are turned down flat!
I also know it's not easy to pick up a conversation with a complete stranger, especially one you find attractive.
Thus the appeal of online dating.
I've tried free sites, and paid sites. I tried paying for Yahoo Personals before they merged with Match.com. That's where I found Mr. Boob Man who took me to Arby's for a lunch date and never got a call back. I went on a few dates through that site but killed the subscription pretty fast because of lack of viable dates.
Over the years I really like eHarmony. I've paid a time or two. I don't like paying a subscription, but like many things you get what you pay for. The reasons I like eHarmony was the guided communication. It allowed me to attempt to weed out the idiots. Nothing has ever come from eHarmony beyond a few dates.
Craigslist is just scary. I'll admit I tried it a time or two both posting and responding. Even logging on to the site can be a shock. I don't mind kinky but damn some of the things are plain out disgusting and degrading on there. I've answered a few ads and posted ads.
I've learned regardless of where I post to be bluntly honest in what I'm looking for. I get less freaks responding that way. I do get varied responses. Only one was vulgar and rude. Most on craigslist are older, considerably older. I've had a few younger responses and a handful of prospects my own age.
OKCUPID seems to be a pretty good site. It's free. I'm pretty selective there at who I respond to. More and more I feel like waiting to be pursued. I don't play games and don't want to play the cat/mouse thing. However, it would be nice to sit back and wait for a man to want to get to know me. There's only one problem with that. I'm sitting back counting only a few dates since the first of the year! I've had more dates with my girlfriend than a man.
I've learned regardless of where I post to be bluntly honest in what I'm looking for. I get less freaks responding that way. I do get varied responses. Only one was vulgar and rude. Most on craigslist are older, considerably older. I've had a few younger responses and a handful of prospects my own age.
OKCUPID seems to be a pretty good site. It's free. I'm pretty selective there at who I respond to. More and more I feel like waiting to be pursued. I don't play games and don't want to play the cat/mouse thing. However, it would be nice to sit back and wait for a man to want to get to know me. There's only one problem with that. I'm sitting back counting only a few dates since the first of the year! I've had more dates with my girlfriend than a man.
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